Having recently finished Gretchen Rubin’s The Happiness Project, I was on the lookout for something new to read. I was thrilled to discover a Nora Ephron book in Warwickshire libraries’ e-Book collection: I Feel Be About My Neck: And Other Thoughts On Being a Woman.
A wide-ranging collection of essays
Essentially a collection of essays, the book offers an amusing and witty perspective on various aspects of life from the point of view of a woman of a certain age.
Ephron’s topics are wide-ranging: from ‘maintenance’ to the nostalgic quest for the perfect cabbage strudel, I recommend the book to you wholeheartedly (whether or not you are, like me, a woman and most definitely on the ‘wrong’ side of 40).
A surprise in the narrative
A chapter entitled Moving On included the following fulsome surprise. As a minimalist, my virtual antennae is perpetually attuned to concepts like decluttering and its resultant benefits. So, I relished the following paragraph, which I reproduce in full, below. In this piece, Ephron and family are preparing to leave their Manhattan apartment after many years living there:
“So we prepared to move. We threw away whole pieces of our lives: the Care Bears, the wire shelving in the basement storage room, the boxes full of bank statements, the posters we hung on the walls when we were young, the stereo speakers that no longer worked, the first computer we ever bought, the snowboard, the surfboard, the Portafiles full of documents relating to movies never made. Boxes of clothing went to charity. Boxes of books went to libraries in homeless shelters. We felt cleansed. We’d gotten back to basics. We’d been forced to confront what we had outgrown, what we’d no longer need, who we were. We’d Taken Stock. It was as if we’d died but got to sort through our things; it was as if we’d been reborn and were now able to start accumulating all over again.”
Extract from Nora Ephron: I Feel Be About My Neck: And Other Thoughts On Being a Woman
Just look at that:
“We felt cleansed. We’d gotten back to basics. We’d been forced to confront what we had outgrown, what we’d no longer need, who we were.”
This piece captures so eloquently but wistfully the process of letting go whilst revealing so clearly the resultant benefits.
Aspiring minimalists already know the joy of living with less. What Ephron captures is the sense of moving on, not only physically but emotionally, from the life she once had.
Where our perspectives diverge is in the very last part where Ephron suggests the idea of starting to ‘accumulate all over again’. We know that re-filling our lives with stuff will not add value or provide the sustained benefits of a clutter-less existence.
Over to you
So, if you are cracking on with #Unclutter2017 this weekend, remember that the process may cause you to confront who you once were. You’ll feel lighter as a result, however, and I promise you it’ll help you get back to basics and focus on what really matters.
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