3 things you need to do this weekend

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How did you spend last weekend? Perhaps you spent time on chores, catching up from the week, or maybe you enjoyed a hectic round of social events?

In her podcast, Before Breakfast, Laura Vanderkam discusses ways to maximise a short weekend (aimed especially at those who perhaps work on a Saturday or Sunday). She advocates prioritising 3 things that will help make the most of your time off, no matter how long you get:

  • Something social
  • Something spiritual
  • Something physical

For me, last weekend fulfilled all of those ideas.

Something social

Last weekend was somewhat extended for me, as it began with a light meal and a catch-up old friends on the Thursday evening.

My ‘Gin and Books’ group followed on Friday, with a spirited discussion on Joanna Nadin’s The Queen of Bloody Everything. Some of us really loved it; others weren’t so keen. So, maybe it’s a ‘marmite’ book. Either way, the gin was lovely; I sampled Strawberry Gin with an Elderflower Tonic.

The following day, I was was scheduled to do my fortnightly Pets as Therapy visit with Ollie, our (almost) 6 year old cockapoo. This combined both the social with the ‘spiritual’ as my heart sings when I see the enjoyment of the residents in the nursing home I visit visibly perk up when they see us.

It’s rare to have 3 social events in quick succession; I wonder why they all arrive at once?

Something spiritual

If you’ve ever been a singer in a group (or even enjoyed singing in church), you’ll know about those spine-tingling moments when you experience a musical moment of perfection.

Anything that’s good for the soul will give you a tick in the box when it comes to ‘something spiritual’. For me, that was baking a lemon drizzle cake on Saturday morning in honour of our daughter’s return from a few days away. Simple pleasures, such as enjoying a lovely cup of tea in the garden or a quiet soak in the bath, can really be uplifting.

Something physical

Our ‘something physical’ last week was a long walk – straight from our house – down to the Millennium Trail, which follows the path round Kenilworth Castle. This morning’s walk followed part of that route, but it’s raining heavily, which is odd since we experienced baking temperatures on Thursday!

We know that getting out in nature is good for us (more on this here), so we try to do this, even if it’s chucking it down!

I love the idea that these 3 simple suggestions can help us make the most of the time we have off. So, what will you be doing this weekend? I’m certainly going to remember to try to incorporate a bit of each: something social; something spiritual; and something physical.


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Slow-down hacks for a simpler summer

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It’s been a whole month since my last post, so I’ve been desperate to get back to the blog. How are you all?

The reasons for my silence are twofold: Mr G has been jetting around Europe for work (Warsaw twice; Prague once), so life’s a bit different when he’s not around (all you single parents out there, you have my utmost respect).

Plus, I’ve been spending some extra time during the evenings, sitting alongside our 17-year-old in the car, to enable her to practise her driving skills. Having past her theory test, she now has her practical booked for next month, so we’re keeping everything crossed.

Happily, after what has also been a very intense period at work, I’m really looking forward to the summer. It’s a great time to slow down and simplify life a little bit, so here are some hacks for you that I’m going to be putting into practice once school’s out.

Switch your mode of transport

Even when you’re at work over the summer, if your journey permits it, try changing your mode of transport. My workplace is just 5 miles away, so I’ll be dusting off my bicycle and whizzing to the office via the cycle paths. I don’t want to cycle all year round (the route is not fully lit), but when the mornings and evenings are filled with sunlight, it’s lovely being able to arrive at the office feeling oxygen-filled and energised by a bike ride.

I met another Sixth Form parent on Thursday who told me that she’d recently taken part in the school’s 100 mile charity bike ride in France; she suggested I go along next time. I don’t know about that, but I might just manage 10 miles a day!

Eat simply

Did I tell you that I’m loving Madeleine Shaw’s cookbook, Ready Steady Glow (recommended to me by fellow blogger, Glamour in the County). Full of easy-to-make, tasty and nutritious recipes, Shaw’s way of cooking has me getting meals on the table – from start to finish – in less than half an hour. Even better, I’m going to be choosing her simple salads to throw together during the week this summer. That will leave the weekends for some more self-indulgent and time-consuming culinary creations.

Dine outside

Talking of food, we love eating out when the weather is fine. Last year’s heatwave saw us making very good use of our patio set. This year, so far, we’ve had a very wet June but I live in hope that the weather during the school holidays will be kind to us.

Today is going to be the hottest yet and I am – unusually – at home entirely alone. Mr G has taken our teen to a university open day and Ollie-bobs (cockapoo) is at the groomer’s.

Invite others

I’m hoping to follow in the footsteps of inveterate people-gatherer Sarah Harmeyer of www.neighborstable.com whose story I read about in the latest issue of Simplify Magazine.

Harmeyer’s welcoming ethos is an inspiration to us all; keeping it simple, but extending the hand of friendship to all-comers is something I’m going to try to do more of during the holidays.

Get those jobs done

This week saw the start of a series of household jobs we’ve been meaning to get done for some time. Somehow it seems easier to be doing work on the house when the weather is fine.

Plus, we’re doing some jobs that really should be done in the summer months. First up, we’re replacing our home’s 30 year old gutters and drainpipes and repairing a part of the roof. We’ll be glad we did this come the autumn.

Get your sea fix

This year, we’re visiting the Northumbrian coast for the first time. Fellow cockapoo owners have recommended some dog-friendly places to visit (and eat) and we’re staying in a cottage that’s managed by an award-winning lettings agency. It’s my dream to one day visit places such as New England. In the meantime, we’ll take the simpler route of jumping in the car in ‘old England’ and heading north. We should be there in around 4-5 hours and are looking forward to the slower pace of coastal living.

Dress simply

The loveliest thing about summer is being able to slip on a dress, dig your feet into sandals (or trainers if the weather’s a bit inclement – I’m loving the white trainers trend), grabbing a bag then heading out of the door. I don’t know about you, but I also think that summer is a time when you can afford to dress a little more casually; be comfortable; and be a little more sartorially relaxed.

What are your favourite summer hacks? Do let me know by replying in the comments below!


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Simplifying weekday meals

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I’ve written before about simplifying meal planning but – in the past week – we’ve had to ramp things up when it comes to making things simpler.

Mr G is recovering from major surgery on his back. As a result, he has been told not even to lift a full kettle, so I have been Chief Nurse, as well as being Head Cook and Bottle Washer.

Planning ahead

While Mr G was in hospital, I awoke very early one morning. Mulling things over, I decided to do some research on meal kits. Given that I’m still working full time during his recuperation, some of the things that he would normally do will now fall to me. And since I can’t be walking the dog and cooking the dinner at the same time, my logic was that getting a bit of help in the way of easy-to-prepare meals might be something to consider.

I don’t want to eat ready meals so….

Organic veggie boxes have been around for many years, but recipe boxes are a more recent phenomenon. I’d been aware of some of the ones that advertise extensively (e.g. Hello Fresh) but if you Google ‘recipe boxes’ up comes a whole raft of options. How on earth do you choose?

The Independent View

While undertaking my nocturnal scrolling, I came across this article from The Independent. Albeit around 18 months old, the article reviewed 12 of the best recipe boxes that were available at the time. I clicked on the links to find out more about the top 3 rated services: Gousto, Riverford and Yorkshire based Snap (northern slang for ‘food’).

Happily, the first two were still going strong but I wasn’t sure about Snap; perhaps it is no longer trading?

The product ranges

Here’s where you’d think it would be straightforward, but there are quite a few choices.

First up, the key question. Are you feeding four or two? Hmm. Well, neither. We are a family of three. Given that I like to take leftovers for lunch the following day, I decided to opt for the ‘family of four’ option.

Then, do you want dairy-free, gluten-free, vegan, vegetarian, low carb, 10 minute meals, everyday favourites, global kitchen, plant based.. the list goes on! It certainly seems there’s something for everyone, albeit I would concede, this is not the cheapest way to shop.

My choice

I decided to try Gousto, which was offering 50% off the first order. That means we paid £23.88 for 4 x meals for four this week.

If you’re interested in doing the same, click on any of the Gousto links I’ve posted here and you’ll get the same deal (50% off your first order in any one month, then 30% off orders in the same month). Full disclaimer: If you do this, I’d also get £15 credit towards my next box (and you’d then be able to pass on the same offer to friends in your own network).

The Independent described this company as offering ‘tasty and innovative’ meals and I have to say the pictures looked appealing. My key question was this: would the meal kit emulate something I had cooked from scratch, or would there be a ‘ready meal’ quality to it?

In reflecting on my motivation, I wanted something that would:

  • Be quick to prepare (the recipes provide exactly the quantities required, so no time spent weighing ingredients)
  • Provide some variety, with different flavours, tastes and textures
  • Take the planning and thinking time down considerably: I just selected what looked appealing, added the recipe to my box and that was it

Delivery

The delivery options were straightforward; I could pay extra for a timed delivery (albeit within quite a long window or accept the box would arrive any time during the day but with no delivery charge. I decided to go for the ‘free’ delivery, since Mr G would be at home to receive it.

Whoops! On the day of delivery, I received the following via email….

“Unfortunately, due to a small operational issue we’ve had to move your delivery to the evening delivery slot.

Your box will still arrive tomorrow, just a little later than planned – between 6pm and 10pm.”

Then, surprise! The box arrived late afternoon (thank goodness, we might have been hungry)…

Packaging

I was curious to see to what extent the packaging would be recyclable. Even when cooking from scratch (my usual mode of operation), we still – as a household – create a lot of recycling waste.

The Gousto box did contain some cellophane and plastic-wrapped items (you can’t transport a mozzarella in a paper bag), but I didn’t feel the packaging was excessive. Indeed, the company’s information booklet states a solid commitment to reducing waste this year.

What was curious was the sheep’s wool insulation that encircled the food and worked, along with two ice blocks, to keep the food cool. If we bought enough boxes, we could insulate our loft!

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The Proof of the Pudding

So, onto the main event.

Breakfast bar

Were the recipes easy to follow? Yes! Although they’re designed for two people, so you have to make sure you’ve doubled each ingredient to create the meal for four. That said, the liquid quantities caught me out – I automatically doubled the amount of water needed for my ‘Avo Taco’ smokey beans, then realised that I only needed 50% more liquid.

The ‘Avo Tacos’ were really tasty and passed the ‘home cooked’ taste test. Indeed, because you’re working with fresh ingredients and perfectly-measured herbs and spices, you’re still cooking from scratch.

But, the main question has to be, “What did it taste like?”

We really enjoyed this first meal. I halved the total amount of spices, as we don’t like things to be too hot. This meant that we enjoyed all the flavour without the heat.

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Tonight’s meal is a Cheesy Tomato Gnocchi Tray Bake, which I’ve started preparing. When I get home, all I’ll do is a bit of mixing and final assembly, bung the dish in the oven and prepare some greens as a side dish.

10 out of 10?

So, how would I rate Gousto?

Actually, I quite liked it. It was fun receiving the box and digging out the carefully curated ingredients. The recipes offered taste options that meant I could choose a variety of meal types over the four days and they included both cooked meals and options for salad-based recipes. I’d certainly give it 9/10 so far. What I have changed for next time is the quantities, having decided that recipes for 2 will feed 3 nicely.

As you can see from the link to the Tray Bake recipe, everything’s really clear; you even get a nutritional breakdown, which would be especially useful if you’re counting calories.

So, bring on tonight’s dinner… and let’s see what’s in store for next week!


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Why summer’s a great time to declutter

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We’ve just returned from a mid-week break on the North Norfolk coast. After weeks of wall-to-wall sunshine, we drove into grey, cloudy skies and endured the coldest, windiest few days I can ever remember on holiday. Typical!

It was so chilly, we had to buy a windcheater for me and a new jacket for Mr G. Needless to say, the above photo is not from the immediate past week (it is, in fact, a picture of my beloved Kynance Cove in Cornwall).

My mum pointed out that we endured a bitterly cold seaside holiday during a sudden blast of chilly weather in the summer of 1976…. Maybe such holidays simply run in the family, then.

This weekend, I’m thawing out in balmy Warwickshire, where the temperatures are set to reach 28 degrees once again. As I have another week of annual leave before I return to the office, I’m looking forward to some time at home. That might include a sweep of the house for excess clutter….

Get your decluttering head on

Summer’s a great time to tackle unwanted stuff.

When the sun’s shining but you need to get out of the heat for a while, this is your chance to get on top of the clutter you’ve been meaning to sort out. So, head for the garage, the shed or any place in your home where you hate being when it’s cold – you’ll be glad you did come November.

Go Swiss

Pretend you’re living in an alpine resort, throw open your windows, let your duvet (comforter) hang out of the window to air and let the the breeze gently enter the room, as you tackle that cupboard or closet that you’ve been ignoring for a while. It’s great to be able to enjoy a bit of shade indoors when the weather is really hotting up and it’s amazing what you can get done in just a short space of time.

Holiday living is simple living

In our Norfolk holiday let, we enjoyed a kind of ‘tiny house living’ courtesy of Airbnb. We rented part of a converted barn in a village location comprising a living room (kitchen space, dining table and two chairs, lounge area); shower room and bedroom. It was just perfect for two (plus dog).

I often remark that, when away, we enjoy a true slice of simple living, with just a few possessions in a minimal, pared back space. So, why not live with less back at home?

On your return from vacation, it’s not unusual to see your home with fresh eyes. This is a perfect moment, then, to reappraise your stuff and capture a sense of holiday living at home.

Put the kids to work

When the kids are around, it’s a great time to encourage them to take a look at their stuff. What could they donate or give away to make room for new things? What have they outgrown that won’t see another season come the autumn?

If you’re in a part of the world where the children are due to go back to school soon, now’s also a great time to try on school uniform or everyday clothes to check what needs replacing. However, I don’t advise this at the start of the summer vacation if you’re in the UK and about to embark upon the 6-weeks holidays; children who eat and sleep have a curious habit of growing!

Beware of decluttering seasonal stuff

When decluttering in the summer, it’s all too easy to make rash decisions about out-of-season items, so beware of letting go of something that’s not in season. What you wouldn’t dream of using when it’s 30 degrees in the shade could be a godsend when the nights start to draw in. So, hold that thought as you tug at the sleeve of that old winter coat. You might just need it.

Unclutter your diet

Summer’s a wonderful time to rejuvenate and throw of the layers in other ways. I’ve just discovered Michael Greger’s The How Not to Die Cookbook, which is filled with nutritionally-charged, delicious plant based recipes. If you’re turning over a new leaf in the house, you might also want to munch a few leaves in the kitchen.

So, turn your decluttering to the kitchen, getting rid of any out-of-date staples and stocking up on the wherewithal to make some yummy new dishes. Plus, as it always takes a little longer when you’re trying out a new recipe, the summer’s a wonderful time to stick on a podcast, roll up your sleeves and prepare a light and healthy dish for everyone to enjoy.

Have a plan

And if it all seems too much, you can always retire to your garden for some…. planning and organising of the cerebral kind. It’s always good to have a plan….


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Frugal recipes for the week’s end

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Last weekend, we weren’t able to secure a Sunday morning food delivery slot, so we scheduled an order to arrive the following day.

We normally eke out our food stocks on the day immediately before our online shopping arrives. This usually involves doing something creative with eggs; throwing together a pasta dish with a tomato-based sauce; or reverting to baked potatoes.

Last weekend, however, there were two days of seemingly meagre rations: both Saturday and Sunday. Could we survive?

This was where the power of the World Wide Web and a well-stocked spice cupboard came in handy. Being a bit creative, as well as understanding what might go together, meant that we were able to hang on an extra day.

Eking it out meant that we:

  • Saved money
  • Used up what we had (less food waste)
  • Were able to clear out the fridge and defrost the freezer
  • Didn’t waste time doing a top-up shop

Here’s what I made:

Cauliflower curry

Why is it that the humble cauliflower seems always to be one of the few remaining vegetables lurking in the fridge?

I have previously made a cauliflower pizza base several times (but didn’t like it much) and I’ve also done cauliflower rice. Neither appealed on this occasion. What I did have were a few sorry looking potatoes, 2/3 bag of spinach and said cauliflower.

Here’s what I made:

https://www.jamieoliver.com/recipes/vegetables-recipes/curried-cauli-potatoes-chickpeas-spinach/

Thank you, Jamie!

I really enjoyed this recipe and would make it again. Although I didn’t have a tin of chickpeas to throw in, this didn’t matter. I also needed to cook the dish for longer than the recipe suggested, otherwise the potatoes would have been too firm.

Carrot and lentil soup

This is a recipe I’ve made before, as other recipes often call for one or two carrots, leaving you with a bag of several more.

https://www.bbcgoodfood.com/recipes/2089/spiced-carrot-and-lentil-soup

This time, however, I decided to lose the spices (they aren’t a favourite when it comes to feeding children) so this is what I cooked instead:

https://www.jamieoliver.com/recipes/vegetables-recipes/helen-s-lentil-carrot-soup/

Random Ragu

Finally, I concocted my own ‘Random Ragu’ for the meat-eaters in the family. If you know how to cook a basic ragu or have ever made spaghetti bolognese, then you’ll be able to produce Random Ragu by using the same basic principles.

I threw in:

Chopped onion
Mix of fresh and dried herbs

Mix of pork mince and beef mince
Chopped tomatoes
A squirt of tomato puree
A splash of Worcestershire Sauce
About 500ml stock

After softening the onion in a little oil, I added the meat, turning up the heat until it had changed colour.

I then added all the rest of the ingredients, bringing the pot back up to a simmer, before cooking slowly until it was done.

I whizzed about half of the sauce with a stick blender to create a smoother, blended ragu, then returned this to the pot to serve over hot pasta, with some grated grana padano over the top.

I almost forgot pudding!

Rice pudding with lemon zest, made the old fashioned way (not out of a tin) was our frugal pudding.

This just needs short grain pudding rice, sugar, milk, lemon zest… and a whole lot of patience, as you’re tempted to stick a spoon into the pan and taste before it’s ready.

Eke-it-out days

I enjoyed my trial and error day of ‘eke-it-out’ cooking. Perhaps you could have a go yourself?

Do you have any fail-safe standby recipes for eke-it-out days? What are your store-cupboard go-to ingredients? Do share by replying to this post, below!


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Enough

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If you follow me on Twitter, you may have noticed me mentioning a monthly bread-making group that I now attend.

My friend, Lynne, introduced me to this. So far, I’ve baked Apple and Rosemary Bread, soft rolls and a quick-to-make type of breakfast bread, courtesy of The Hairy Bikers. To my surprise, I found that the Banbury Guardian has the recipe and method on its website, in case you’re interested.

Bread group protocols

We meet around the kitchen table of our host, Caroline on the 2nd Tuesday of the month.

Normally, in the style of Blue Peter’s, “Here’s one I made earlier,” Caroline has already prepared a batch of the dough whose recipe we are to make. This is so that we can knead it before it goes into the oven. This is especially useful if it’s a dough that requires a long time to prove. While this bakes, we get on with making another batch of dough to take home.

Towards the end of our measuring, mixing and kneading (and chatting), the first batch becomes ready for us to enjoy with lashings of butter (straight from the oven).

More than simply yeast-based recipes

At this gathering of like-minded women, we exchange stories and develop friendships as we enjoy fellowship and fun together. This invariably involves sharing news of our children or reporting updates on ageing parents, but our discussions are also wide-ranging.

What would 2018 hold?

This week, we shared Christmas and New Year’s stories and repudiated the idea of ‘dry January’ in favour of ‘damp January’, as we sampled a bottle of prosecco that my mum had given me at Christmas. Thanks, mum!

During the evening, our thoughts turned to the year ahead. None of us had made a New Year’s Resolution but one of our friends, Ruth, had chosen a word for the year. This is an idea I’m seeing increasingly: the selection of a word or phrase that might epitomise – or help shape – the coming 12 months.

Ruth’s word was simple, but incredibly powerful. It was ‘enough.’

Enough

This really struck me. What an inspiring choice!

There are so many ways we could apply ‘enough’ to our lives, which would ensure we lived a more intentional life.

We think of ‘enough’ when we talk about:

  • enough to eat
  • enough to wear
  • enough to live on
  • enough to get by
  • having done enough to pass
  • ‘enough is enough’
  • doing enough

No doubt you can think of many more examples.

Intentionality around ‘enough’

I got thinking about this and realised that Enough is the title of Patrick Rhone’s book. Have you read it? I haven’t yet, but maybe I should.

I took a look on Amazon. In the foreword to Rhone’s book, James Shelly explains how Rhone finds the middle ground between the absolutes of ‘unbridled consumption’ and ‘monastic luddism’.

Do I already have enough?

Asking, “What do I really need?” or “Do I already have enough?” is a very good way to check our natural impulses, especially when we are considering a purchase (particularly if it means bringing additional stuff into our homes).

If you shop online for food, checking if you already have enough of a particular item in the cupboard is a sure-fire way of helping stick to your budget, whilst ensuring you have what you need to make this week’s recipes. You’ll also avoid unnecessary food waste.

Hankering after the latest gadget? Ask what you really need. So many appliances or electronic devices have far more functionality than any of us actually require. It may be more cost-effective in the long term to buy a better quality appliance with fewer functions (like our Miele washing machine) than a fancy piece of kit with lots of features you’ll never use.

When simplicity is ‘enough’

In The Lord’s Prayer, one of the best-loved and most frequently spoken prayers in the whole world, the only thing we specifically ask to be given is:

Our daily bread

Whilst ‘bread’ may be a proxy for our most fundamental basic needs, the simplicity of this is beautiful. The ‘staff of life’ is all we need to sustain ourselves. Anything beyond that may be a luxury, even excessive. Through this prayer, we don’t ask for riches. We ask for enough.

Minimalism is about removing the excess from our lives and paring down to a more simple, fundamental way of life. Anything that no longer adds value can be eliminated, enabling us to focus on what really matters (spoiler alert: that’s not stuff).

How lovely that it was at a bread-making group that ‘enough’ was the word for the year. It’s certainly something I’ll contemplate as the first month of the year unfolds.


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Why setting intentions might be better than making New Year’s Resolutions

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Even before Christmas, social media channels were alive with thoughts of New Year’s Resolutions.

Review of the Year

Certainly, the period between Christmas and New Year is often a good point to kick back, reflect on the past 12 months and anticipate the year to come. And many of us consider the start of a new calendar year a good point to establish new habits, change old ones or strengthen our resolve to achieve particular goals.

Types of New Year’s Resolutions

New Year’s Resolutions tend to fall into a number of discrete categories. Some are about improving physical wellbeing (e.g. to eat more healthily, lose weight, take more exercise or quit smoking). Others are more career-oriented or are about relationships, spirituality or experiences. It’s no accident that post-Christmas advertising space is filled with advertisements for slimming programmes, diet foods or nicotine replacements. We’ve all seen them.

However, the majority of us who set New Year’s Resolutions find it difficult to keep them and, instead of sustaining success, we find that our ‘get up and go’ has soon got up and gone.

When New Year’s Resolutions don’t work

So, what’s to be done?

I’ve been thinking about this for a little while and I reckon there might be a different way. Instead of going all out on a concrete ‘all or nothing’ resolution, I wonder if setting an intention might be a gentler, kinder way to move towards a desired state?

For me, an intention suggests something fluid, dynamic and ongoing, whereas a resolution seems, to me, all or nothing.

Setting an intention

Setting an intention is deliberate, but rather than being a rigid absolute, it’s about moving towards a goal (continually and repeatedly). So, if you falter, you get right back onto whatever it is you’re trying to achieve.

To reduce sugar

For me, I have a sweet tooth and, in theory, love the idea of quitting sugar as a New Year’s Resolution. The trouble is, this can be a very difficult thing to do when social situations throughout the year often revolve around food in the form of sweet treats (mince pie, anyone?).

Instead, I like the idea of setting an intention to reduce my overall sugar intake, rather than eliminating sugar as an absolute goal. So, yesterday, I experimented a little.

It was Boxing Day morning and we had stayed over at my parents’ home, following a lovely day together for Christmas Day. Mum offered croissants for breakfast but, instead of slathering mine with jam, I had a little butter on my pastry along with my decaff’ latte and enjoyed the naturally sweet taste and texture of this holiday treat.

Likewise, following our return home some hours later, we enjoyed a late lunch at The Almanack, one of Kenilworth’s best-loved and much-frequented gastropubs. Normally, I would have ordered dessert after my main course (I normally eschew a starter because they are too filling) but, instead, opted for an espresso macchiato as the ‘full stop’ to a very enjoyable meal. As you can tell, I’m not giving up coffee any time soon!

To get more exercise

Similarly, you might want to take more exercise, but would baulk at resolving to run 10 miles per week by the end of the month. Instead, set an intention to put on your trainers and step outside the door. You don’t have to wait until 1 January either. What happens after that is up to you, but it’s a move in the right direction.

Some people find it easier and more empowering to embark upon a new activity with someone who can act as an accountability partner. For others, thinking about their future self might be enough to motivate themselves towards a healthier, fitter self. Consider – honestly – what might work for you and set an intention to move towards this new goal.

Resolutions come with a health warning

Whatever we decide, we do need to be careful about the goals we pursue.

In the introduction to her book America the Anxious: Why Our Search for Happiness is Driving Us Crazy and How to Find It For Real, Ruth Whippman cites a University of California, Berkeley study in which participants were asked to rate how highly they valued happiness as an explicit goal and also how happy they were with their lives.

As Whippman writes, the ones who rated happiness as a distinct personal ambition were less happy in their lives in general and were more likely to experience symptoms of dissatisfaction and even depression.

This reminds me of Robert Lustig’s most recent book, which I wrote about here. Don’t confuse pleasure with happiness, says Lustig. It’s easy to conflate the two.

My intentions for 2018

So, I’m going to set my intentions around moving towards a small number of achievable goals, rather than proclaiming a New Year’s Resolution on 1 January 2018. Indeed, I like the idea of experimenting and I might well enjoy a few simple living experiments in the coming year.

But don’t forget, it doesn’t have to be complicated. Keep it simple. As Leo Babauta says, “Simplicity boils down to two steps: Identify the essential. Eliminate the rest.” That might help us stay focussed on what’s important.

Happy New Year!


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