After a little break from the blog over the summer, I’m back for a new season with some new life adventures to share with you. I hope you have been keeping well and happy, in spite of lockdown restrictions.
Our daughter is about to take the next step on her life journey and embark upon the quasi-independent life of being a university student. She is one of the hundreds of thousands of UK teenagers who belong to the ‘Class of Covid-19’ whose achievements were ultimately based on ‘centre assessed grades,’ rather than on a combination of teacher insights and a controversial algorithm. So, I’m somewhat relieved and delighted that she has been able to secure a place and is now in the run-up to moving into her hall of residence next weekend.
Getting the essentials
It’s been interesting observing my daughter’s group of friends, as they plan what they’re going to take with them to their respective institutions. Inevitably, they want their university room to have homely touches, as well as the necessary essentials. So, last weekend saw the two of us in one of the UK’s top ten shopping destinations, Milton Keynes (famous for its roundabouts!), as we tackled a rather long wishlist.
We visited just 3 shops and that was enough for me: Home Bargains (bargains indeed!); Primark (for its home section); and good old Marks & Spencer. Forget IKEA if you’re thinking of venturing out: the queues to get in were snaking through the car park – a clear ‘no go’ for me.
Kitchen in a box?
Of course, retailers know that they can offer handy bundles, such as Wilko’s “Kitchen in a Box”, but here’s what I think about these sorts of offers: you probably don’t need them. Rather, it’s better to remember that you don’t need as much as you think (we never do) and what you genuinely need is probably already available at home.
‘Shop’ from home
So, after some indulgent purchases, it’s now time for our girl to ‘shop from home’. That is, whatever we didn’t buy on our trip is probably available right here in cupboards, drawers and shelves here at home. In spite of my minimalist tendencies, we still have more than enough cutlery, crockery, towels and other items that a student might need. Plus, why buy new when you’re using a shared kitchen and – apart from your own room – are getting your first taste of communal living? Better, I suggest, to take old stuff that you’re not too precious about, so if it goes walkabout or gets broken, it really doesn’t matter. So, with just a few days to go, I’ve invited Miss Gordon to take whatever she likes. This may sound like an extravagant gesture, but it really isn’t.
Remember The Minimalists’ mantra: If you can pick up something for $20 or less – and get hold of it within 20 miles of where you live – don’t stress about it. Of course, this is in the context of decluttering seldom-used items: if you accidentally declutter something you find you later need, it’s not really an issue to let go in the first place when you know that replacing it would ultimately be an inexpensive and easy thing to do.
The same applies to household items for the soon-to-be undergraduate – what if she takes the corkscrew or our favourite kitchen knife? It really doesn’t matter when we’re within walking distance of shops that can readily supply replacements for less than £20 and within 20 minutes on foot.
Lockdown has certainly taught me that we truly need far less than we ever believed. Plus, our local community swung into action by sharing, instead of shopping, for things that neighbours needed. Our little street has a little WhatsApp group now, which we didn’t have before lockdown. If someone needs anything (or has something to offer), this group comes into its own. We’ve also benefited from the kindness of residents on our town’s community Facebook group helping and sharing with each other in a way that we didn’t do before. Long may this continue.
So, if you’ve got a student about to leave home for the first time (or if you are that person), I’d heartily recommend the ‘shop from home’ approach, even before you head for the shopping mall. It’s a more sustainable way to approach your first term at university and it’s kinder to your wallet, too.
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